A Letter To My Future Partner

Dear future whoever you are, 

I hope by this point we are settled down into our amazing beach bungalow and can hear the ocean every morning when we wake up. The coffee bar we installed in the kitchen was a great idea! 

After lots of trial and error, here we are. Finally happy and finally settled. Until then, this is what I hope. 

For you: I hope your current partner is treating you well and you are learning from this time in your life. I hope that you are cultivating yourself and growing daily, seeing life as an exciting journey laden with beauty and splendor. Don’t let the bad days get you down and don’t be too pedal to the metal; I want you to make it to me! Right now the world is crazy and people are starting to unite together and talk about things that make them uncomfortable and learning how to grow from them to do better, and I truly hope that you are one of them. Enjoy the moments that are right now, see the joy in where you are now. Please don’t take a single second for granted. Right now, you are turning into the person you are meant to be. I truly hope that you use proper grammar and spelling because that is a big pet peeve of mine. Or if you don’t right now then you do when we are together! 

For myself: I hope you are able to see past your current hardships and sorrows. Things haven’t been easy lately but you are strong and you are growing every day; I am so proud of us. Please keep fighting for your dreams because I promise someday you are going to get there. Don’t ever stop fighting for what you believe in. You are someone’s dream and hope, so please don’t settle. Enjoy life and the things that make you happy. Seek joy and trust in His plan for you. It’s a beautiful plan! Everything is a stepping stone to where you are going to be in the future. Trust in that. 

By whatever point we are at in the future wherever we are, I hope that we are happy and that we have finally found our Person in each other. I pray that we wake up every morning thankful for each other and that even when we get into arguments, we look past them and still go to bed happy.  I probably haven’t met you yet and that’s okay. It’ll happen someday. Until then, please find wonder in the sunshine and rainbows and please don’t be intimidated by mine. My dreams are big and I want you to be in them. 

I’ll meet you at the coffee bar or the porch swing! 

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What’s The Big Deal About Dating Apps?

Hey y’all!

In today’s day and age, there is a dating app for everyone. If you want a sugar daddy/mama, there are plenty of apps to choose from. Like distinguished gentlemen? You’re in luck, there’s apps for that too!

Since I have been single for a hot minute now, I thought it would be a good idea to get back out there and see what’s up. I’m still not sure if it was a mistake or not, but I ended up downloading two of the App Store’s most popular dating apps: Bumble and Tinder. If you don’t know about the two apps, Bumble is a bit different from other apps, as the female has to initiate contact with the man. It’s not a bad idea, because it does save your inbox from being assaulted with invitations for quick hook ups as soon as you make a match. That takes us to Tinder! I have gotten way more interest on Tinder than on Bumble, but only 1 out of the 20 something men I matched with/talked to was sincere about starting a relationship.

A lot of what blows my mind with dating apps (more specifically Tinder) is how easy it makes the hookup culture. Send a few good messages and you may have someone coming over. Coffee and a good conversation to get to know each other feels like it is no longer there. I’m not shaming hooking up, it’s up to everyone to figure out if it is for them! Sometimes no strings attached is the way to go if we are being honest. But sometimes it would be nice to try to be wooed before jumping straight into bed!

So the big question is: what’s the big deal about dating apps?! You have to make an assessment on someone based off of their pictures, bio, and, if you match, a good opener. It’s the window shopping of the dating scene. I’ve always started out as friends with anyone I was going to date, so just sending a quick “hey” and talking completely over a chat is still a bit foreign to me. However, there are pros to the list. If you end up not liking someone, you can unmatch with them and boom, you don’t have to talk to them anymore. Ghosting people is so easy to do and typically neither party gets hurt. We just go back to swiping for more fish in the sea. And speaking of swiping, it gets addicting so you should probably limit how much time you spend on dating apps. I’ll jump on and look up a second later and an hour has already gone by. It’s dangerous!

Dating apps have helped with the boredom that comes from quarantining from the COVID pandemic. It kills a bunch of time throughout the day and you can spark mini conversations with people and stay connected. So while it may be a scary business to talk to random strangers on the internet, it is still a little thrill to be hit up and poured with compliments, even if they are just trying to crack your shell for a good time.

If you decide to download a dating app, just be safe! There are some creepy people but there are way more good guys and girls out there!

Happy dating!

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Healthy Body, Healthy Mind, Happy Life

Hey y’all!

It’s no secret that I have been in and out in the past few months and a lot of that is because I have been searching. I have felt so lost since I started college way back in August and it only got worse after I left school in October. I’ve had four jobs since college, no idea where I’m going, and lots of flipping and flopping around. Finally, I’ve started having a step to what I have been searching for.

I’m finally in a work environment that I love and where the people love you back, and let me tell you, for me personally, that means so much. If you think about it, you will probably spend more time at work interacting with co-workers than you do at home during the week. That’s a lot of time to be around people and I hope you enjoy their company. Having friends at work is amazing and having ones that support you and make your day better by just being there is the best.

My dream for years has been to join a school where I can eventually work in conservation to help sea turtles and rehabilitate them. I talked with a school for a few months and after talking with my awesome advisor more, I made the jump and applied- and was accepted! Another step to chasing my dream.

I talk a lot about fitness, eating good foods, and trying to be overall healthier to my body and mind. Losing weight is something I would love to be able to do in the blink of an eye but I cannot do that. However, after consistently going to the gym and making better decisions, I have finally started to lose some weight and I feel so much healthier! Something I love to help me keep track of my day is Lifesum (yes, we have been through this before, I know!).

Lifesum is a free app that helps count your calories, keep track of drinking water, find yummy recipes, and so much more. I would love to be a Super Human and be able to drink only water, but I love a good Diet Coke every now and then, too! Lifesum helps me keep track of all of that! A feature that I love is the barcode scanner! When you eat something, all you have to do is scan the barcode on the packaging and it will probably have it in the system already so all you have to do is add it to your daily food log! It’s easy and quick!

I feel so much healthier than I used to and staying with a routine has been one of the best things I have done. My tip: use all the resources you can, drink lots of water, and find a workout buddy to keep you (and them!) accountable. I work out with my lovely boyfriend Caleb at least 3 times a week and we are stronger for it!

Your body holds deep wisdom. Trust in it. Learn from it. Nourish it. Watch your life transform and be healthy.” – Bella Bleue

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*This post is not sponsored by Lifesum or their affiliates. I just love the app!
*Feature cover photo Oliver Cole on Unsplash

Fear, Coffee, and the Art of Letting Go

LET IT GO: three words that I hate! Being told to just “let it go” is frustrating, especially when the “it” that must be let go is driven by my fear. However, I’ve learned that letting it go is necessary for the mind and soul. How can I waste my time and energy on something that isn’t beneficial to me? When bad feelings and bad vibes linger, it only hurts me and the ones around me because I allow those energies to change my attitude- and that isn’t good! By holding onto negativity, I’ve risked pushing the ones I love away. Starting 2019 in a moody mindset when I strive for a fresh start is harmful and it’s time to change that.

A medicine for me is coffee. There is simply nothing like a good breve or vanilla latte to hug your soul. Coffee brought my best friend and I together and it smacked some glue in our lives. Taylor, my best friend, and I used to work at the same coffee shop, slinging coffee and espresso day in and day out. Granted, I am leaving for a different coffee shop, but we started out loving coffee together. I can never look at coffee as just another beverage again. It’s more than grinding beans, making brew, and pulling shots of espresso. How many times have people sat around after a long day and enjoyed time with each other while bonding over a pot of fresh coffee? A lot- the answer is a lot!

Fear wraps into coffee with me. Fear is telling me I won’t make it at my new job, that I am not cut out for it, and they made a mistake hiring me because I will fail. But at the end of the day my confidence is in myself. I have found an art that I love and I am invested in. Coffee is my ministry. I love people through my coffee. My art is what I take confidence and try to squash my fears.

In this new season of life, I’m learning to let it go. What I cannot change must be acknowledged and then released. Today, let’s recognize areas where we can let things go, eliminate our fears, and drink a good breve.

 

What’s New

Life is a crazy and beautiful trip. Some destinations are hectic and a wild mess, but the next stop is beautiful and breathtaking. I started a new chapter of my life in August when I left for college and I thought I had everything figured out. I was going into art School, I had a stable university job, and my life was playing out how I thought it would. I was going to be successful and my life was great. It’s funny how when I think it is all rainbows and sunshine things change and I am in the middle of a hurricane. I had almost everything I thought I had wanted. But as life goes, things changed. I fell back into my depression, I did not want to be at college, and all I wanted was to be at my escaping place back at home. I hated my life. What I thought my major was going to be changed and I began to do the confused jump of “well maybe I will like this degree” and back and forth on what I wanted to do.

Cut to the end of October and I’m talking to my parents in a mess of tears and uncertainty. The decision I made that day will effect me for a while and it took some time to realize that it would be okay. My decision: I was going to completely withdraw from my university. I let my university know and despite their prompting for me to stay and seek counseling on my situation, I packed up up my room and belongings and moved back home. In a week of being home, I had the job that I had wanted since June lined up and I was making my way.

It took a lot of tears and tough choices, but I am finally in a spot where I am happy, I am at peace, and I love how my life is going. Out of all of this, people have kept telling me to go back to school and not to give up on that, but the truth is, I am living my life and not theirs. I do want to go back to school eventually but right now I am living for today and saving up for my future. College isn’t for everyone and that is okay. You don’t have to be in college and taking exams to know your future will be “good”. I learned that by realizing I hate college right now.

So make decisions for yourself. Make choices that will make you happy. It is your life and it’s okay to ask others on their opinions but you can’t live your life based on them. If I did that, I would still be in college, I would be in a dorm, and I would be on my way to a career where I would not be happy. It is insane for me to tell people that I left college to be a barista back in my hometown but the fact of it is that I am so much happier now than I was. This is the life I have wanted for a long time. I have peace now.

So even in the hard times, just keep in mind that it will be okay and things will play out. There were nights where I silently cried myself to sleep and all I wanted was to be at home with my best friend and our family. I’m sitting here on a Tuesday afternoon in a coffee shop while people drive by and come in for a cup of coffee and I am

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”

-Carol Burnett

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18 Things I’ve Learned In 18 Years

Hi, friends!

Long time no see! Since I’ve started college and working, I am insanely busy and hardly have time to sleep, so maintaining my blog has been pushed way off to the side. There’s been a lot of change and it has meant I have to roll with the punches. Today, however, is a very happy day. A few weeks ago, I turned 18 and it couldn’t have been here soon enough. I’ve waited for this day for a year!

Being on this planet for 18 years isn’t a lot of time compared to the life of others, but even so, I’ve learned a lot. Here are some things I have learned in the past 18 years.

18 Things I Have Learned In 18 Years

#1. If you know your body can’t process dairy, don’t eat dairy! Yes, cheese is amazing but it isn’t worth it in the end.

#2. Pepto Bismol and Lactaid are amazing (please sponsor this post, Pepto!).

#3. Taking off your makeup before you go to bed is a necessary thing, so just do it.

#4. It’s okay to distance yourself from people, even friends. You gotta do what you gotta do.

#5. Take risks. Whether it’s with love or a job, take risks.

#6. There are things that will scare you and make you want to run away- and that’s okay. But you shouldn’t let the fear rule you.

#7. Don’t be afraid to ask questions! Be curious.

#8. Do not let your fear rule your life. It’s okay to be scared but you can’t live your life being afraid.

#9. Sometimes you are going to have to make decisions that will be hard to do. They will break your heart and they will hurt, but it’s what helps us learn and grow.

#10. Embracing your flaws is really hard but it is worth it.

#11. Finding a church family that you can trust helps the soul grow and the spirit thrive.

#12. Don’t underestimate your worth and don’t sell yourself short. You’ve got this, honey!

#13. Sometimes a decision that works for everyone else will not work for you and that is okay!! You will find your right place.

#14. Go out and find a coffee shop that you love and that stills your soul, then go there and grab a book and drink a coffee.

#15. Read some Shakespeare and go to the theater because it is so much fun!

#16. Make time for you!

#17. Plan on a good time to splurge on yourself and do it if you can! Treat yo self!

#18. This last one is so easy but so hard. Love one another. There are going to be times when you do not want to love someone and the last thing on your mind will be to speak words of kindness and not just rip into someone with words. I feel that and I get that. It’s difficult but speak words of kindness instead of anger.

In reality, 18 years isn’t a long time but there is so much I have learned in that time that exceed this list. Life throws some curveballs and in the hard times, remember to go with the flow. It’s all going to work out in this big beautiful life.

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Life’s Crazy

Hey, friends.

The title really sums up this post in two words: Life’s Crazy. 

It still baffles me how one body can go through so many emotions in one day- confusion, anxiety, sadness, happiness, and so many other feelings. I am this way when there is a big change looming in the future and for me that is moving into my dorm room in 3 days! How many new people will I meet? Will I hate my time at college? Is every single day going to be a struggle? The answer: I truly don’t know. There are so many unknowns and that bothers me. I am scared my friends will forget me and live their lives without me. I”m scared that people I love will realize I’m not worth the effort. I’m scared of being pushed away so far and there is no return.

3 days and I’m moved out. I am excited, I am nervous, but I think I will be okay. Maybe morning yoga at the university’s gym won’t be such a bad idea after all! Life is crazy. There are days where I am filled with happiness and days where I just sit on the floor and cry. Sometimes I think I get too much into my head. Maybe we all do that a little bit.

Change is good.

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Until next time, friends.

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Absences & Mind Sets

Hi, friends!

I hope you are all having a great week and a fabulous summer. Here in Oklahoma we are experiencing another season of uncomfortable heat and it is less than fun to be sure. I’ve been pretty absent here and on my social medias lately. Taking breaks from blogging is never fun and I am the worst at taking them. I always think I stay away for too long and when I do end up coming back to blog, it won’t be worth it. Welcome to the highs and lows of Mimi. So in every aspect, I let myself down when I set goals for the month because I get sidetracked or things happen and my focus goes away.

With college starting up really soon, I know I am not going to be here as much as I used to be or as much as I would like to be. And you know what? That’s okay. It isn’t going to be the end of the world and the universe won’t explode if I don’t have a consistent blogging schedule. I would rather get a degree and work in my passion.

As for mind sets (Because we all could use a super positive mindset where we only build ourselves up!), I am working on mine. I don’t like being confused and right now, I feel majorly confused about everything that is going on in my life. The balance has been knocked out of alignment and that really freaks me out. With major life changes happening, I know that it is normal to feel this way and to want things to be centered again. Going with the flow is not one of my strong suits and I need to work on trusting that everything is going to work out.

One of my favorite songs is “Three Little Birds” by Bob Marley and the Wailers.

Don’t worry about a thing
‘Cause every little thing gonna be alright
Singing’ don’t worry about a thing
‘Cause every little thing gonna be alright

It is relaxing and is my go-to song for when I am about to have an anxiety or panic attack. All I have to do is plug in the music and let it flow into my soul.

So in all of the changes going on in my life and through all the confusion, I’m trying to remember that it is going to be okay. Going with the flow is good. My wish for you is that you can go with the flow, too. Let’s all relax and “Rise up this mornin’
Smiled with the risin’ sun.”

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Coffee Chats + Giveaway Sneak Peek

Happy weekend, friends!

For many young adults and students, it is finals week and that means the rush of studying, making sure you are prepared for big exams, and trying to sleep are your top priorities- but the last one often gets neglected! With all of the rush and all of the changes happening, I decided to sit down and just have a down to earth chat with you guys and that means this post is going to be random. Grab a snack, get a coffee (or tea!), and let’s sit down and chat.

If you read my last post then you know that I took a badly needed break for my own personal reasons and I am so glad that I did. It’s been really great to reflect on everything and to start telling myself (and believing!) that it is okay to take a break, to take a step back, and to relax if it is needed. The world won’t pass you buy if you decide to stay off of Instagram for a day or disconnect from Twitter for a few days. Life will be okay and so will you..so will I. It’s a learning experience every day that I log on here or on Instagram (you should watch my stories..I’m a hoot! Steve Carell, who?) because I always talk to new people or interact with people who I admire. With all of that and seeing changes develop, it can be pretty overwhelming to think about all of the upcoming events (good or dreadful) that are coming up and that all mean change.

When change is happening and I get worried about life, the world, and every tomorrow, the one thing that I know is always reliable is my faith. Not necessarily my but the faith of Jesus. When life becomes crazy, it is always great to sit down and read passages in my Bible that reaffirm my beliefs and that remind me that the love of Jesus will never change and it will always be there. Hebrews 13:8 says “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” No matter what happens with school, with a job, or with family, the one solid thing that I know I can rely on is Jesus. There is something incredibly comforting in knowing that I have something solid in my life that will remain the same even though centuries pass.

But with my faith comes a problem that is like a nasty hurdle that always trips me up: my mind. How my brain loves to become a concrete barrier that blocks me from an unchained faith. “I sound stupid praying out loud. It’s just me in my car. I literally look like an insane fool.” “Does God really hear me? I feel like I am talking into the air.” “I’m not the best Christian in the world. I am selfish, I curse, I end up repenting for a lot of things.” And mostly, I think that I can rely on myself alone so I end up not asking for things or asking for help of any kind. It’s something I want to work on but admitting that I have a fault is never an easy thing.

An announcement for you guys, though, that is entirely unrelated to this topic, is that there is a giveaway happening right here on May 5th! It is just in time for Mother’s Day and there is going to be a special post on the holiday that will be published on the 5th and you guys will know all about the special giveaway in that post. I am so excited for you guys to see it and enter!

I hope your finals go well! Rest up, eat good food, and remember that school is almost over!

I have a few questions for you guys, though:

  1. What do you like to see on Instagram?
  2. What wallpaper designs do you typically like?
  3. What is your current favorite song or album?

Let me know down below, tweet me, or let me know on Instagram!

See you all on the 5th!

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